They come into this world, ugly, naked, crying and they make you love them deeply, so unconditionally that they can break with a single stupid move. Once chance, one choice, one wrong move and your heart can shatter. They entangle you in their lives and take up every single spare piece of your life. They make you do things like wear mom jeans, clean puke out of carpeted stairs, teach them how to wipe their bums and take warm sloppy kisses from the dirtiest faces you've ever seen. You can love them almost more than you love yourself. Their imperfection is utter perfection in every parent's eye.
Love those problematic little beasts right now. Walk away from this right now, find you kids and hug them until they cry. Ok maybe not that much at least until they protest. Call them if you have to. Tell them every day how much you love them, they need to know. Now go call your parents and tell them how much they mean to you, for all they have done for you, given up for you, loved you through. Now if you have a spouse or partner get to it, tell them how much they mean to you. Because seriously in one stupid move your life, your love can be broken.
We almost lost our oldest son this last weekend. He was the passenger in a small car that was t-boned by a truck doing 70. He was hit on his side, full force, full brunt. Bone crushing, life ending yet miraculously he lived. The seat he was in was crushed to 8 inches wide. The truck that hit him flipped and rolled. The car was unrecognizable. The weird thing is it happened a hundred yards from our home and they landed in our trees. I was gone, my husband and the kids eventually saw the emergency lights outside and went to investigate. They discovered my son's drum set in the car and the horrible realization came to them. Thankfully he was long gone to the hospital by then. He will live. He will walk again. He will.
One blink and your heart can be utterly destroyed. That's the problem with children right there.
Peace and Love--